This life is a gift for some and a burden for a few. How you perceive it as whether as a gift or burden depends upon many factors.The most important factor is your innate nature that you carry with you.This innate nature is not influenced by the DNA you got from your parents or your upbringing. This innate nature is you, purely you and the nature of your soul that you have been carrying for perhaps many decades now. This innate nature makes someone a fighter, a giver, a doer, an achiever, a go-getter, Or a loser, a taker, a cynic, gullible, a pessimist. Which category you fall into decides your course in life and the same decides how you well or poorly you will live your life.
A recent news about Arjun Bhardwaj, the 24-year-old student who jumped off the room on the 19th floor of Hotel Taj Lands End in Mumbai,has been doing the rounds.What was going on in his head ? ! He was the son of a business man, supposedly a well to do family. The boy checked into Taj using his credit card, recorded a tutorial of his suicide act. The reason for suicide in the newspapers was depression due to failure in college. What was wrong with this boy ? Just because he could not accept failure so he decided to end his life !
⦿According to the WHO suicide data over 800,000 people die due to suicide every year and there are many more who attempt suicide. In fact every suicide is an encouragement for those who are contemplating this act in their minds as the survey says there are indications that for each adult who died of suicide there may have been more than 20 others attempting suicide.
⦿Each day in our nation, there are an average of over 5,240 attempts by young children between grades 7-12.
⦿ According to the International Suicide Statistics – On average,1 person dies by suicide every 40 seconds somewhere in the world.
⦿1.8% of worldwide deaths are suicides.
⦿ The Global suicide rates have increased 60% in the past 45 years.
Reading all these facts and data there are questions that hover in my head about all those people who try to commit suicide. Under what circumstances did they do it ? Was there not even a single moment of happiness in their life to latch on to life? Were they expecting something different than we normally expect from life ? Did they talk about their state of depression with anyone? Did anyone around them tried to approach them or counsel them? Was it the fault of a bad parenting ? What was their mental state that led them to a decision like this one ? Do they feel life after death to be more colourful than this one? Did they feel life as hell and hoped to find heaven on the other side? Where did they finally reach ?
Heaven ! ?
I can’t comprehend ending life this way.Is it merely the lack of courage to face the ups and downs of life Or is it because one expects too much from life? Who is to be blamed ? The parents for not teaching the required life skills to the child or the child ? Do the sufferings really end after a suicide when they finally enter heaven?
Oh! but wait ..Isn’t this Heaven ? ! ?
“I have always believed that Heaven and hell both are present on this earth and all around us. There is no Heaven or Hell up there. Its all in here. Within us . Around us. There are so many ways I find happiness and it feels like heaven. The first gentle breeze that touches my face as I open the windows early morning, the sweet singing of the nightingale, the first ray of sunlight that passed through my body, the morning hug from my husband, the forceful cuddles the I give my kids, the first sip of my morning tea, the people I meet and greet throughout the day. There is music and happiness everywhere and all around. I feel blessed to feel all this every day. I do have my drag days for sure, I have my days when I want to shout out loud and bite everyone who gets on my nerves, but hey those days are limited to specific cycle and holds true for every women. There are more days of pleasantness and gratitude”.
The power of living our lives lies in belief. On the belief that All Is Well..if not , All is going to be well soon. The Belief of not giving upon yourself. To share our thoughts and emotions with our loved ones.To not shy away from breaking down and crying. Cry out loud or shout from roof tops, vent your stress or anger- let it pour. Talk and share. Believe that you have the power to heal yourself and set things right. Believe that the one you call God is listening.Stay Positive always.
What would be the difference between a person who knows exuberance and one who does not? Why one person is happy and gives more to life whereas one trying to take away this very life? Why ones perspective is always positive and hopeful while the other is always complaining and yearning for sympathy? I believe it’s the Innate nature. Upbringing and a congenial environment do play a role in shaping up a personality and bring about a positive perspective on life.
For the children : Share with your parents all your worries and turmoils. They are your BBF. Don’t be scared of being a failure.Its completely alright to fail in life. Dust yourself. Move forward in life.
For the Parents : Strike a conversation with your child. Listen, but don’t judge. Do NOT label your child. Act as a friend more often than just a parent.
As it is life is short and its ticking away. This world is beautiful and a happy heaven. Let’s hang on. And when we finally reach our end the natural way I am sure God is gonna ask us all –
“ So, How was Heaven down there ?”